We could all do with more self-love practices in our life. Why? Because they make us feel good. It fuels our creativity, it boosts our productivity, it infuses more love into our relationships, and most importantly, it nourishes our soul. And so you start by inviting in some simple, self-loving activities into your life, to help fill up your self-love … Read More
I’ll be honest, I struggled to know what to call this blog, and Mirror Reflections: It’s not you, it’s me is what finally arrived into my consciousness. For a long time relationships confused and baffled me, upset and hurt me, left me and abandoned me, and then one day… I learnt what I’m about to share here. The following teaching … Read More
‘Is he/she my soulmate?’ This is a question I get asked a lot, especially from the women I work with one-on-one. ‘When will I meet my soulmate?’ ‘How will I know it’s him/her?’ ‘Am I in the wrong relationship?’ ‘What if my husband is not my soulmate?’ Such seemingly big questions if you, like most people, buy into the ‘soulmate’ … Read More
After finding my way back home … I’m back! Yes, I’m back!! And boy oh boy does it feel good to be back. What do I mean exactly when I say ‘I’m back?’ Well…after losing my way after my son Zen was born, I can confidently say I’m back. I’ve found my way back home. Up until the day Zen was … Read More
I regularly get asked the question: Why do I need a dedicated Jade Egg practice? Can’t I just wear the Jade Egg? Sure, you can. However, simply wearing your Jade Egg will only allow in a fraction of the healing available to you. And as I explain in mu blog: Do I have a weak pelvic floor or a strong … Read More
I was first told about Elimination Communication or EC from my doula; my birth support person. She shared how Elimination Communication was where you learned how to read your babies vocal and bodily signals to know if they were about to pee or poop so they could be placed on the potty to relieve themselves. And apparently this was possible … Read More
If you enjoy reading self-help books, going to inspirational talks or yoga classes, chances are you’ll be familiar with hearing the words ‘Listen to your inner voice’. So let me ask you this… Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a direct line to your inner voice; your True Self? Do you find yourself wishing that … Read More
Can you embrace your body.. fully? Take a moment to ask yourself that question: Can I fully embrace my own body? Can I accept the skin I’m in? If you answered ‘No’, then you’re not alone. 91% of women hate their bodies. How shocking is that? How we feel about our body plays a crucial role in how we feel about ourselves … Read More
Hello friend. I would like to take a few moments to share with you my tears, my lessons and my personal insights derived from the six weeks I took off work to travel to France with my gorgeous husband as part of a holiday/belated honeymoon. So if you’re anything like me, you have a posy full of romantic expectations on … Read More
Relationships are delightfully fulfilling at their best and gravel-rash painful at their worst. Whether it’s a good friend or a romantic partner, being able to let go after a relationship has ended, isn’t always easy. But if you’re open to exploring what that relationship gave you and what you can learn from it, then it can be one of the … Read More
When women come together in a group – as part of a community – something special happens. Something unexplainable… What is that something? Healing. Deep organic profound healing. Healing of our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual self. How does this healing happen? Let me explain… Humans are social creatures; we are meant to connect. Sometimes those connections we have with … Read More
It’s really easy to say I will self-nurture once I get all these other tasks I ‘have’ to do out of the way. I’m sure you’ve said it. Hell, I used to say it ALL the time! I’ll just do these dishes, answer these emails, help my friend with her… what was I helping her with again? And then I’ll … Read More
It’s easy to pop sexuality and spirituality in two very different baskets, but in truth, sexuality and spirituality are intimately interwoven. How is this so? Because we are love at our core (if you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll be familiar with this understanding). Therefore being spiritual is about experiencing yourself as love. When we ‘make’ love, are … Read More
Have you ever played Chinese whispers? One person whispers a message into the next person’s ear, then they do the same to the next person, and so forth, until the message finally gets around the circle and the last person announces the message they received. Isn’t it amazing how quickly that initial message loses it’s meaning and becomes something entirely … Read More
The moment we are conceived we start learning; learning about life, learning about ourself. We learn about how to operate in the world, how to relate with others, how to handle money, how to look after our body, how to think about ourself; essentially how to do this thing called ‘life’. Yet when we grow up into an adult, and … Read More
It seems like we have many problems in life; the car breaking down, our partner leaving us, money struggles keeping us from having the life we desire, an overwhelming feeling of loneliness, diagnosis’ of depression, infertility, or even worse, cancer. Yet we really only have one problem. And that one problem is causing all of these other problems that we … Read More
On my honeymoon my husband and I decided to start a veggie garden. We were super enthusiastic, buying all the seeds, extra soil, and any other gardening paraphernalia we thought we’d need. We got our little hand spades and started digging into the garden beds to turn over and prepare the soil, only to find…. rocks. LOTS of rocks. Oh … Read More
Do you know what the leading cause of good health is? Go on take a moment to consider what it is that creates good health……………………………………………………………… Love, happiness, joy, fun…… PLEASURE!!!! When we give ourselves permission to indulge in deep pleasure for extended periods of time, that in itself is healing to the body. Yet when we’re tired, anxious, depressed, overwhelmed … Read More
Are you one for rituals? Do you have a certain way you put on your make-up or cook your breakfast? While I’m all for being spontaneous and enjoying the moment, I’m also a big advocate of having little daily practices that allow one to nurture and center his or herself. Life can get super chaotic at times and having little … Read More
Could you spend a day in silence? This is my challenge to you this week. We all have distractions and craziness in our lives. Between jobs, relationships, driving, food shopping, meals, kids after school programs, and finally making it to yoga class on Saturday morning, we have perfected multi-tasking at its best. Yet there comes a time when we need … Read More
What is self-love? We hear the words ‘self-love’ get thrown around the spiritual world willy-nilly, but not many of us actually practice self-love. For many people they don’t know how. Some don’t know what self-love actually is. I’ll take this moment now to share what self-love is, but I just ask you one thing: Don’t dismiss it’s simplicity. For it … Read More
We all know what a blood transfusion is. It’s giving blood intravenously to someone who needs more blood to physically stay alive. We certainly do need blood to keep our physical body alive, but in order to stay truly alive, we need love. Love is what energetically awakens us so we can feel deeply alive. Many people these days live … Read More
No doubt you’ve been on a date… or three. How was it? Did it give you Goosebumps? It was after kissing a few too many toads, without any of them turning into my Prince, that I decided to stop dating men, and start dating myself. Date yourself? ‘Yes’… with a nice big cherry on top! Why? This week I have … Read More
It was December last year when I received an email inviting me to speak on one of the most prestigious stages I have ever spoken on. To say I was jumping all over the place with the unbridled enthusiasm of a ninja in a leotard high on red cordial, would be a massive understatement. What followed was meeting with my … Read More
So what is Wabi Sabi? Pretty much everything that today’s sleek, perfectly mass-produced, technology-saturated culture is not. It’s flea markets and op shops as opposed to shopping malls, it’s rustic mis-match chairs instead of a perfectly symmetrical chair set, and it’s a bunch of wildflowers rather than a dozen long stemmed red roses. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy, which … Read More
Do you have a spiritual practice? And if not, why not? Before I began my daily spiritual practice – of tuning into myself and clearing beliefs – I was living in a whirlpool of chaos, barely keeping my head above water. Yet when I started connecting with myself – for that is what a spiritual practice is about, connecting with … Read More
If you’ve read my book Getting Naked – The Dating Game you’ll know I’ve seen my fair share of psychics. Desperate for love, I’d ask when he would arrive. Each time they’d tell me my Prince was coming, and each time I got soooo attached to this outcome, I’d unconsciously sabotage his arrival. Again, and again, and…. yes again… It … Read More
As many of you know I LOVE swing dancing! Growing up somewhat of a tomboy (playing drums and racing cars) I took a very masculine approach to life. When I say masculine, I mean I was very goal orientated, very driven and very active in pursuing that which I desired. For many people this would have been seen as a … Read More
In life we experience one of two things: Love or fear. We know we are experiencing love when we feel good, life makes us happy and we are deeply satisfied and content. Unfortunately for most people, this kind of experience is only fleeting, if existent at all. Why? Because we live in a fear-driven society. We are brought up to … Read More
Finding your life purpose can be like finding a needle in a haystack for some people. But it needn’t be that way. Discovering your life purpose is an exciting journey into self. If you struggle to know what you’re here for or often wonder what you’re meant to be doing with your life, you’re not alone. It’s been said by … Read More
Struggling to buy gifts for those hard-to-buy-for people in your life? Then why not offer them the gift of love! ‘Ha?’ I hear you say! ‘That’s not something I can give another person.’ Actually it is. You just need to be open to showing love, gratitude and perhaps even get a little creative. Which is fun, right? Everyone I know … Read More
Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself? Let me answer that for you… To love oneself means to accept, respect and believe in all that you are. When you have deep self love you have this inner knowing that anything is possible, and because of this, your … Read More
With a wedding on the horizon, it’s no surprise that my dreams have taken me down the isle of tiaras and cakes and flowers. But last night I had a wedding dream that wasn’t so white and pretty. There I was about to walk down the isle in my big white poufy dress (vintage-style of course!) when I realised my … Read More
Being happy can be a foreigner or being happy can be your friend. If you’re like 99% of the population you’re probably looking for happiness in all the wrong places. And when you do find happiness, it only hangs around momentarily. What I’ve noticed since working as a Relationship Therapist and helping people develop their relationship with self so they … Read More
Our romantic relationship isn’t so different to our favourite pair of stilettos. Really! If the heel breaks off your stiletto, whom do you blame? The manufacturer, the shop owner who sold you the pretty shoes in the first place, the guy on the street who just happened to look your way as you went flying booty over tit into a … Read More
Don’t be shy. Learning how to have an orgasm – that’s deliciously divine – is as important as learning how to cook – and a hell of a lot more fun! And while you may be having orgasms already, most people do not know how to have an orgasm that truly satisfies. A gourmet orgasm full of flavour. An orgasm … Read More
Are you stopping yourself from doing something because you’re not polished yet? Not perfect? Then you may be the victim of ‘Perfection Paralysis’. When we strive to be perfect at something, we do one of two things: We either work our proverbial butt off trying to reach this unreachable ‘perfect’ or we shy away from doing anything for fear of it not being perfect. … Read More
Every love story has a beginning. And it usually starts with someone searching for true love. I know for me, I always wanted to find ‘The One’. The romantic in me always on the lookout for her Prince, always hoping to experience that deep heart-felt connection. And for many years I searched and searched, experiencing flings and rendezvous’ that while … Read More
If you were in a relationship with someone who despised you, neglected you, feared you and ignored you, would you stay? Probably not. Yet this is how most people treat their money. As strange as it may sound, we are in relationship with everything in our life. Including money. Is it any wonder then, for most people, that their moolah … Read More
It can be really difficult when someone shoots a vindictive arrow your way. I’m sure you can remember a time (or 50) where someone fired at you. Perhaps they said something mean or maybe they did something unforgettable that broke your trust. It hurt, yeah? Much more than a physical wound. You see, while physical wounds heal with time, emotional … Read More
Do you brag or do you inspire? I had a really interesting conversation this week which revealed that while I like to share my wins, the person I was chatting to steers away from this and prefers to share his problems. Why? He doesn’t want to sound as though he’s bragging, which is fair enough. My view however, is that … Read More
Love, support and encouragement. Do you give these things to your partner, or do you give your partner something else? Snide remarks, put-downs and insulting looks of disgust; do you question their abilities and thus their potential? This is a topic I feel very passionately about because I am constantly seeing couples who lash out in each other in disrespectful … Read More
Not only is kissing is an essential ingredient for a long lasting relationship, it signals to the brain to produce oxytocin. Now oxytocin is the hormone that makes us feel good. It’s also known as the ‘bonding hormone’ or the ‘love hormone’.
Whether it’s in the bedroom or in the boardroom, in order to get what you want in life, you need to be able to receive.
Valentine’s Day has the ability to sweep you off your feet in one romantic heart-fluttering waltz, or leave you standing by the dance floor, feeling alone and dare I say, miserable. Singletons are usually the biggest causality on February 14, but even those of us in relationships can be left feeling bitterly disappointed when the roses (or in my case … Read More
Most of us have some sort of secret being held hostage inside. And sure, keeping a surprise birthday secret is one thing, but when it comes to deeper issues, be it a health disorder, cheating on a lover or any other thing that causes embarrassment or concern, then letting it out is the only way forward. The reason people often … Read More
If your family get-together makes you feel like you want to suffocate your siblings (or your parents) in a stocking, don’t despair, surviving xmas is possible. Truly! Christmas can be full of cheer and happiness and kisses under the mistletoe, if you do a little internal work and recognise that any trigger points round the dinner table are the most … Read More
It became obvious to me in the past week or so how confronting some people find honest conversations. So let’s begin by discussing what an honest conversation is: An honest conversation is letting a person know your true feelings about a particular action or lack of action they took, that has left you feeling a negative emotion such as hurt, fear, … Read More
The good ‘ol biological clock can send us into a head spin, if by thirty (or even forty for some ladies) they have not yet found the man they wish to procreate with. I see single women go on a date with the intention to marry the first man who will give her their sperm, instead of actually finding a … Read More
In fairytales the white knight recues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day – charming isn’t it? However, real-life knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner’s behavior; a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. The rescuer enters the … Read More
