How to let go of old relationships.

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Relationships are delightfully fulfilling at their best and gravel-rash painful at their worst. Whether it’s a good friend or a romantic partner, being able to let go after a relationship has ended, isn’t always easy. But if you’re open to exploring what that relationship gave you and what you can learn from it, then it can be one of the … Read More

Boost your self-love through community.

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When women come together in a group – as part of a community – something special happens. Something unexplainable… What is that something? Healing. Deep organic profound healing. Healing of our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual self. How does this healing happen? Let me explain… Humans are social creatures; we are meant to connect. Sometimes those connections we have with … Read More

What happens when you self-nurture?

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It’s really easy to say I will self-nurture once I get all these other tasks I ‘have’ to do out of the way. I’m sure you’ve said it. Hell, I used to say it ALL the time! I’ll just do these dishes, answer these emails, help my friend with her… what was I helping her with again? And then I’ll … Read More

Sex is a spiritual practice. Yes sexuality and spirituality really are one!

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It’s easy to pop sexuality and spirituality in two very different baskets, but in truth, sexuality and spirituality are intimately interwoven. How is this so? Because we are love at our core (if you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll be familiar with this understanding). Therefore being spiritual is about experiencing yourself as love. When we ‘make’ love, are … Read More

The intuitive power of the heart

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Have you ever played Chinese whispers? One person whispers a message into the next person’s ear, then they do the same to the next person, and so forth, until the message finally gets around the circle and the last person announces the message they received. Isn’t it amazing how quickly that initial message loses it’s meaning and becomes something entirely … Read More

Do you have a spiritual teacher?

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The moment we are conceived we start learning; learning about life, learning about ourself. We learn about how to operate in the world, how to relate with others, how to handle money, how to look after our body, how to think about ourself; essentially how to do this thing called ‘life’. Yet when we grow up into an adult, and … Read More

There is only one problem in life

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It seems like we have many problems in life; the car breaking down, our partner leaving us, money struggles keeping us from having the life we desire, an overwhelming feeling of loneliness, diagnosis’ of depression, infertility, or even worse, cancer. Yet we really only have one problem. And that one problem is causing all of these other problems that we … Read More

The leading cause of good health: Pleasure!

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Do you know what the leading cause of good health is? Go on take a moment to consider what it is that creates good health……………………………………………………………… Love, happiness, joy, fun…… PLEASURE!!!! When we give ourselves permission to indulge in deep pleasure for extended periods of time, that in itself is healing to the body. Yet when we’re tired, anxious, depressed, overwhelmed … Read More

Silence: The antidote to life’s woes

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Could you spend a day in silence? This is my challenge to you this week. We all have distractions and craziness in our lives. Between jobs, relationships, driving, food shopping, meals, kids after school programs, and finally making it to yoga class on Saturday morning, we have perfected multi-tasking at its best. Yet there comes a time when we need … Read More

Heal your life through the Art of Self-Love

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What is self-love? We hear the words ‘self-love’ get thrown around the spiritual world willy-nilly, but not many of us actually practice self-love. For many people they don’t know how. Some don’t know what self-love actually is. I’ll take this moment now to share what self-love is, but I just ask you one thing: Don’t dismiss it’s simplicity. For it … Read More

Wabi Sabi your life: See perfection in imperfection.

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So what is Wabi Sabi? Pretty much everything that today’s sleek, perfectly mass-produced, technology-saturated culture is not. It’s flea markets and op shops as opposed to shopping malls, it’s rustic mis-match chairs instead of a perfectly symmetrical chair set, and it’s a bunch of wildflowers rather than a dozen long stemmed red roses. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy, which … Read More

What you must know BEFORE you see a psychic

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If you’ve read my book Getting Naked – The Dating Game you’ll know I’ve seen my fair share of psychics. Desperate for love, I’d ask when he would arrive. Each time they’d tell me my Prince was coming, and each time I got soooo attached to this outcome, I’d unconsciously sabotage his arrival. Again, and again, and…. yes again… It … Read More

Love heals: Heal your life through love.

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In life we experience one of two things: Love or fear. We know we are experiencing love when we feel good, life makes us happy and we are deeply satisfied and content. Unfortunately for most people, this kind of experience is only fleeting, if existent at all. Why? Because we live in a fear-driven society. We are brought up to … Read More

Give the gift of love this Christmas.

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Struggling to buy gifts for those hard-to-buy-for people in your life? Then why not offer them the gift of love! ‘Ha?’ I hear you say! ‘That’s not something I can give another person.’ Actually it is. You just need to be open to showing love, gratitude and perhaps even get a little creative. Which is fun, right? Everyone I know … Read More

Self love: Three keys to loving YOU!

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Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself? Let me answer that for you… To love oneself means to accept, respect and believe in all that you are. When you have deep self love you have this inner knowing that anything is possible, and because of this, your … Read More

Being happy is easier than you may think!

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Being happy can be a foreigner or being happy can be your friend. If you’re like 99% of the population you’re probably looking for happiness in all the wrong places. And when you do find happiness, it only hangs around momentarily. What I’ve noticed since working as a Relationship Therapist and helping people develop their relationship with self so they … Read More

How to have an orgasm full of flavour

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Don’t be shy. Learning how to have an orgasm – that’s deliciously divine – is as important as learning how to cook – and a hell of a lot more fun! And while you may be having orgasms already, most people do not know how to have an orgasm that truly satisfies. A gourmet orgasm full of flavour. An orgasm … Read More

Perfection Paralysis. Are you trying to be perfect?

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Are you stopping yourself from doing something because you’re not polished yet? Not perfect? Then you may be the victim of ‘Perfection Paralysis’. When we strive to be perfect at something, we do one of two things: We either work our proverbial butt off trying to reach this unreachable ‘perfect’ or we shy away from doing anything for fear of it not being perfect. … Read More

Love story: Are you living yours?

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Every love story has a beginning. And it usually starts with someone searching for true love. I know for me, I always wanted to find ‘The One’. The romantic in me always on the lookout for her Prince, always hoping to experience that deep heart-felt connection. And for many years I searched and searched, experiencing flings and rendezvous’ that while … Read More

Sharing your wins with love.

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Do you brag or do you inspire? I had a really interesting conversation this week which revealed that while I like to share my wins, the person I was chatting to steers away from this and prefers to share his problems. Why? He doesn’t want to sound as though he’s bragging, which is fair enough. My view however, is that … Read More

Do you need more love in your relationship?

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Love, support and encouragement. Do you give these things to your partner, or do you give your partner something else? Snide remarks, put-downs and insulting looks of disgust; do you question their abilities and thus their potential? This is a topic I feel very passionately about because I am constantly seeing couples who lash out in each other in disrespectful … Read More

Surviving xmas and keeping your relos!

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If your family get-together makes you feel like you want to suffocate your siblings (or your parents) in a stocking, don’t despair, surviving xmas is possible. Truly! Christmas can be full of cheer and happiness and kisses under the mistletoe, if you do a little internal work and recognise that any trigger points round the dinner table are the most … Read More

Honest Conversations: Are you having them?

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It became obvious to me in the past week or so how confronting some people find honest conversations. So let’s begin by discussing what an honest conversation is: An honest conversation is letting a person know your true feelings about a particular action or lack of action they took, that has left you feeling a negative emotion such as hurt, fear, … Read More

Is your relationship baby-ready?

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The good ‘ol biological clock can send us into a head spin, if by thirty (or even forty for some ladies) they have not yet found the man they wish to procreate with. I see single women go on a date with the intention to marry the first man who will give her their sperm, instead of actually finding a … Read More

Relationship Rescue: Do you have white knight syndrome?

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In fairytales the white knight recues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day – charming isn’t it? However, real-life knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner’s behavior; a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. The rescuer enters the … Read More

Happiness is a state of being, not just an emotion. How happy are you?

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Happiness. Deep down it’s something that all of us want. That’s why there’s a whole self-help isle at bookstores promoting this very ideal that so many people strive for. Yet there’s still a lot of confusion around the emotion of happiness and the state of true happiness, and whether it’s even possible to feel deep happiness long-term. First though, we need to talk about … Read More

Lust at first sight: Do you mix up love with a full-blown bout of longing lust?

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We all know what lust feels like. That electric spark that passes from you to your heartthrob each time you touch. That sense of ‘I’ve found The One’ washing over you, before you’ve had a chance to even find out his/her name! Yet this head-over-heels feeling we’ve all been swept up by at one time or another is likely to … Read More

Relationship problems: Are you whole on your own?

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We read it in romance novels, we hear it in Hollywood movies, hell, I’m sure a few friends of yours have thrown around the line: ‘He completes me’. Do you subscribe to this statement? Or do you realise that it’s one of the most disempowering phrases you can think, let alone say out loud. Why do I smash this statement apart … Read More

Emotional Affairs. Are you having one?

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Affairs of the heart can be even more harmful than physical affairs – and given that 70% of all marriages experience an extra-marital affair (according to Sexual Health Australia) I felt the need to shed some light on what an emotional affair actually is, and what’s needed to stop your relationship from becoming a shocking statistic. So lets first look at what an emotional affair is… … Read More

Change him or change me? Where do you sit?

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It’s not often I single out women, but they seem to be the main culprits when it comes to thinking they can change a man. How many times do we hear her say: ‘Oh, it’s ok I’ll change him once we’re married’, or ‘He’s changing into the man I want him to be? Well, I’ve gotta ask: Why did you date him … Read More