No doubt you’ve been on a date… or three. How was it? Did it give you Goosebumps? It was after kissing a few too many toads, without any of them turning into my Prince, that I decided to stop dating men, and start dating myself. Date yourself? ‘Yes’… with a nice big cherry on top! Why? This week I have … Read More
It was December last year when I received an email inviting me to speak on one of the most prestigious stages I have ever spoken on. To say I was jumping all over the place with the unbridled enthusiasm of a ninja in a leotard high on red cordial, would be a massive understatement. What followed was meeting with my … Read More
So what is Wabi Sabi? Pretty much everything that today’s sleek, perfectly mass-produced, technology-saturated culture is not. It’s flea markets and op shops as opposed to shopping malls, it’s rustic mis-match chairs instead of a perfectly symmetrical chair set, and it’s a bunch of wildflowers rather than a dozen long stemmed red roses. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy, which … Read More
If there’s one thing I see daily, its people with money problems. Money really is one of the leading causes of stress and worry. Given stress is responsible for 70% of all illness and disease, you don’t want money making you sick! Many people come to me and say ‘I know your program will help me turn my financial situation … Read More
‘Mummy, what is a scrotum?’ If you’re a parent, then you’ll know what it’s like to be asked questions about the human body and its functions. Depending on your own upbringing and how you were educated around sex, will determine how you feel about having those conversations. What’s really important to understand, is how we answer those innocent questions is … Read More
Do you have a spiritual practice? And if not, why not? Before I began my daily spiritual practice – of tuning into myself and clearing beliefs – I was living in a whirlpool of chaos, barely keeping my head above water. Yet when I started connecting with myself – for that is what a spiritual practice is about, connecting with … Read More
If you’ve ever had someone you care about walk out on you, you know it hurts. Abandonment is a shocking feeling. Yet few people realise they’re abandoning themselves on a daily basis. When we come home from a stressful day and reach for that glass of wine to take the edge of things, we’re numbing ourself. Abandoning ourself. Blinding ourself … Read More
If you’ve read my book Getting Naked – The Dating Game you’ll know I’ve seen my fair share of psychics. Desperate for love, I’d ask when he would arrive. Each time they’d tell me my Prince was coming, and each time I got soooo attached to this outcome, I’d unconsciously sabotage his arrival. Again, and again, and…. yes again… It … Read More
Going through menopause doesn’t need to be a rough sea of hormonal changes and emotional turmoil. You can sail smoothly through menopause. Many women see menopause as the end of a woman’s sexuality, when it couldn’t be further from it. In fact, many women find menopause is just the beginning! Menopause is a time when women really arrive into their … Read More
How do you feel when an ‘error’ pops up on your computer screen? Frustrated? Annoyed? Shitty? When our computer stops working the way it’s meant to, stopping us getting done what we wish to complete, it can be really… well… Much like life really! Everyday we have little ‘error’ signs popping up; challenges and obstacles getting in the way of … Read More
As many of you know I LOVE swing dancing! Growing up somewhat of a tomboy (playing drums and racing cars) I took a very masculine approach to life. When I say masculine, I mean I was very goal orientated, very driven and very active in pursuing that which I desired. For many people this would have been seen as a … Read More
There are very few people today who are not experiencing some degree of genital numbness. Now when I say ‘genital numbness’, if you can’t feel deep orgasmic pleasure from not much more than feather-soft strokes, then chances are you have genital numbness. But before you get worried about having some terrible affliction, let me explain what genital numbness actually is. … Read More
Too much stress and your body will soon be broken down on the side of the road. It’s as simple as that. Believe it or not, stress is responsible for 70% of all illnesses and diseases. Yes, it’s that huge! And when you look at how stressed most people are today, is it any wonder so many people are in … Read More
In life we experience one of two things: Love or fear. We know we are experiencing love when we feel good, life makes us happy and we are deeply satisfied and content. Unfortunately for most people, this kind of experience is only fleeting, if existent at all. Why? Because we live in a fear-driven society. We are brought up to … Read More
Do you deny, suppress or judge your sexual desires? Do you contract or feel pain, shame or guilt during or after sex? If you do, you’re not alone. It is a statistical fact that little girls are restricted, shamed, punished and made to feel guilty about their body and what they do with it. What does this breed? Nations of … Read More
Do you hold your cards too close to your chest? Are you someone who prefers not to share your struggles, your wins, your road map for life? I’ve come a across a few people recently who are quite secretive about their life choices. They hold their cards very close to their chest for one of two reasons… Either they’re scared … Read More
Finding your life purpose can be like finding a needle in a haystack for some people. But it needn’t be that way. Discovering your life purpose is an exciting journey into self. If you struggle to know what you’re here for or often wonder what you’re meant to be doing with your life, you’re not alone. It’s been said by … Read More
Struggling to buy gifts for those hard-to-buy-for people in your life? Then why not offer them the gift of love! ‘Ha?’ I hear you say! ‘That’s not something I can give another person.’ Actually it is. You just need to be open to showing love, gratitude and perhaps even get a little creative. Which is fun, right? Everyone I know … Read More
We all know the side effects of not brushing our teeth. Abandon the toothbrush long enough and your teeth are likely to rot and fall out. Well a woman’s sexual organs are no different. Autopsies done on nuns have shown their sexual organs completely rotted out due to non-use. And this is more common than you might realise. Almost one … Read More
I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles with life balance from time to time. I am a Libra after all, so my life lesson is balance, if you’re one of those lovely Astrology-nerds! Where do I struggle most? Finding time for all the things I love! Learning French, pole dancing, swing dancing with my fiancé, knitting skirts, wanting to … Read More
Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself? Let me answer that for you… To love oneself means to accept, respect and believe in all that you are. When you have deep self love you have this inner knowing that anything is possible, and because of this, your … Read More
With a wedding on the horizon, it’s no surprise that my dreams have taken me down the isle of tiaras and cakes and flowers. But last night I had a wedding dream that wasn’t so white and pretty. There I was about to walk down the isle in my big white poufy dress (vintage-style of course!) when I realised my … Read More
Our emotional health is intimately connected to the food we put in our body. We may not think it is, but next time you eat a block of chocolate take the time to notice how you feel emotionally half an hour later. Down. Low on energy. Perhaps even a little cranky? Why is this? Refined sugar is one of the main foods … Read More
Being happy can be a foreigner or being happy can be your friend. If you’re like 99% of the population you’re probably looking for happiness in all the wrong places. And when you do find happiness, it only hangs around momentarily. What I’ve noticed since working as a Relationship Therapist and helping people develop their relationship with self so they … Read More
Our romantic relationship isn’t so different to our favourite pair of stilettos. Really! If the heel breaks off your stiletto, whom do you blame? The manufacturer, the shop owner who sold you the pretty shoes in the first place, the guy on the street who just happened to look your way as you went flying booty over tit into a … Read More
Don’t be shy. Learning how to have an orgasm – that’s deliciously divine – is as important as learning how to cook – and a hell of a lot more fun! And while you may be having orgasms already, most people do not know how to have an orgasm that truly satisfies. A gourmet orgasm full of flavour. An orgasm … Read More
Anxiety can be like having a lasso around your neck. Just one small tug and you’re left gasping for air. Yet life doesn’t have to be this way. You can cure anxiety. And it all starts with understanding one simply fact: Anxiety is simply a fear of the future. If you’re not in your head worrying about possible outcomes, then … Read More
Are you stopping yourself from doing something because you’re not polished yet? Not perfect? Then you may be the victim of ‘Perfection Paralysis’. When we strive to be perfect at something, we do one of two things: We either work our proverbial butt off trying to reach this unreachable ‘perfect’ or we shy away from doing anything for fear of it not being perfect. … Read More
‘Do your Kegel exercises … Strengthen your pelvic floor …’ If you’ve given birth, chances are you’ve been told this at least once, and even if you haven’t given birth, you’ve probably read about Kegels in some women’s magazine touting their importance. Who wants to wet their pants every time they sneeze, right? The problem is, if you’re doing Kegel … Read More
Every love story has a beginning. And it usually starts with someone searching for true love. I know for me, I always wanted to find ‘The One’. The romantic in me always on the lookout for her Prince, always hoping to experience that deep heart-felt connection. And for many years I searched and searched, experiencing flings and rendezvous’ that while … Read More
If you were in a relationship with someone who despised you, neglected you, feared you and ignored you, would you stay? Probably not. Yet this is how most people treat their money. As strange as it may sound, we are in relationship with everything in our life. Including money. Is it any wonder then, for most people, that their moolah … Read More
When you finish an activity do you rush off to your next busy engagement like a mouse being chased by a cat, or do you take a moment pause? To be with your experience and be with yourself? Most people’s lives are so full to the brim they’re bursting at the seams, relationships and productivity compromised by this multi-tasking society … Read More
Do you sometimes feel like a huge tsunami is crashing in on you? Is your life filled with perceived threats? Financial sharks, relationship eels, health jellyfish all creating a life driven by fear. We perceive danger at every corner of our life, using drugs, alcohol, unhealthy foods, smoking, retail therapy and the like, to dampen our consciousness and impair our ability … Read More
Just as we have a national budget deficit so too do we have an attention deficit – and it’s this attention deficit that stops us truly connecting with ourselves, with others and the world around us. Amid the world of distractions we live in, we often hear people say ‘Pay attention please,’ or ‘Can I have your undivided attention?’ So lets first take a look … Read More
Would you believe three years ago, just the thought of public speaking would send shivers of anxiety down my spine? Seriously. I remember in my early 20s being a guest speaker at a university lecture where I had to talk about journalism – my former career – and quite literally shaking through the entire talk. My hands were white and … Read More
It’s funny how much we know (especially about other people and the world around us) without consciously realising it. When I’m out walking, and I see someone coming my way, I can tell automatically before I see their face (as I’m a little short-sighted without my glasses) if it’s someone I know. How? Because an unconscious part of me recognises … Read More
We all want connection. In fact, that’s what we crave, what we yearn for, right? Connection with others, but most importantly, connection with our self. Yet this deep soul connection remains elusive for most people. Why? Because instead of focusing on connecting, we humans tend to get caught up pursuing things that we think will deliver us that connection, seeking … Read More
It can be really difficult when someone shoots a vindictive arrow your way. I’m sure you can remember a time (or 50) where someone fired at you. Perhaps they said something mean or maybe they did something unforgettable that broke your trust. It hurt, yeah? Much more than a physical wound. You see, while physical wounds heal with time, emotional … Read More
Too often I see people who like to doubt.. well.. pretty much everything! They question that great idea, they brush off that entrepreneurial concept as being make-believe as opposed to a very real achievement, and they dismiss other people’s dreams instead of seeing the possibility in them. These people lack faith. Faith in themselves, and thus, faith in the people … Read More
What are you receiving in the mailbox of your life? Are you getting all the parcels you order, or are they getting lost, your letterbox filling up with bills and dodgy packages instead? We are ALWAYS manifesting. Really, we are! Every moment of every day we are putting in our orders through the thoughts we think and the feelings we … Read More
Do you brag or do you inspire? I had a really interesting conversation this week which revealed that while I like to share my wins, the person I was chatting to steers away from this and prefers to share his problems. Why? He doesn’t want to sound as though he’s bragging, which is fair enough. My view however, is that … Read More
Love, support and encouragement. Do you give these things to your partner, or do you give your partner something else? Snide remarks, put-downs and insulting looks of disgust; do you question their abilities and thus their potential? This is a topic I feel very passionately about because I am constantly seeing couples who lash out in each other in disrespectful … Read More
If you’re a heterosexual couple of childbearing age you’ve got to deal with the fantasy-crushing subject of birth control. There are certainly a lot of options and devices out there, but not many of them are good for your health. I won’t go into all the scientific links between the Contraceptive Pill and breast cancer here (you can read more … Read More
I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one point in your life (perhaps a hundred or two) where you’ve tried to impress someone, or prove how good you are to them; bragging about some credential without any real reason to or talking yourself up amid meeting a new person in the hope of being accepted. To be liked! It’s easy … Read More
We talk about happiness, fulfillment and love as being great things to strive for in life. Perhaps it’s the big house with the even bigger swimming pool or that job promotion that comes with a hefty paycheck or even that hot guy we’ve been eyeing up in the elevator. They all seem like great things to work towards. Yet not … Read More
Not only is kissing is an essential ingredient for a long lasting relationship, it signals to the brain to produce oxytocin. Now oxytocin is the hormone that makes us feel good. It’s also known as the ‘bonding hormone’ or the ‘love hormone’.
Whether it’s in the bedroom or in the boardroom, in order to get what you want in life, you need to be able to receive.
People often get this yucky feeling when they hear the words: ‘sales’, ‘promotion’ or ‘marketing’. Yet when we hear the word ‘success’ we all want a bit of it.
Let me begin this blog piece by asking: How much sleep do you average per night? Sleep is like putting the phone (our body) on the charger. Less than eight hours sleep is like operating on a dying battery. And unfortunately, not many people make good quality sleep the priority it needs to be. This is where I ask you … Read More
Did you know you always get what you want in life? You’re probably thinking: ‘No I don’t want this debt’ or ‘I don’t want this toxic relationship with my parents’. ‘As if I’d order up a casket full of health ailments!’ Of course you don’t want these things consciously. But if that’s what’s happening in your life right now, then at a subconscious level that is what you want. … Read More
