Ditch the bra if you want perkier breasts ladies!

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Let’s be honest, wearing a bra can be a pain in the, err… Bust! Trudging into a fitting room, waiting to be measured, struggling into ten different styles to find the one that fits properly. Bra shopping often feels like more trouble than it’s worth. And according to one French scientist, it actually is! In this 15-year study it was … Read More

Do you know the difference between feelings and emotions?

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Often people put feelings and emotions in the same basket. Now while they are certainly similar, there are some distinguishing differences you really should know if you’re serious about living a happy life full of positive relationships. Put simply:Feelings are how you feel in the moment. Emotions are past unresolved feelings. To put that into context: Someone accidentally spills coffee on your lap. … Read More

Inner Mean Girl/Dude: How nasty is yours?

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We all have an inner meanie. You know the one I’m talking about. She/he’s negative, judgmental, constantly comparing you to other people and how well they’re doing or looking. She/he also likes to sabotage you in any way possible, such as keeping you busy doing all the things that will keep you from your dreams. You know your inner mean … Read More

Relationship problems: Are you whole on your own?

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We read it in romance novels, we hear it in Hollywood movies, hell, I’m sure a few friends of yours have thrown around the line: ‘He completes me’. Do you subscribe to this statement? Or do you realise that it’s one of the most disempowering phrases you can think, let alone say out loud. Why do I smash this statement apart … Read More

Change him or change me? Where do you sit?

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It’s not often I single out women, but they seem to be the main culprits when it comes to thinking they can change a man. How many times do we hear her say: ‘Oh, it’s ok I’ll change him once we’re married’, or ‘He’s changing into the man I want him to be? Well, I’ve gotta ask: Why did you date him … Read More

Victim or Victor: Which one are you?

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Do you have a sob story you like to re-run in your head or to your friends, family or shrink? Are you someone who feels sorry for yourself and thrives on sympathy from others? If so, you are playing the role of a ‘victim’ and we all know what happens to victims, yeah? Bad stuff. They’re like negativity magnets. When … Read More

Body Love: The key to loving your body.

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I find it fascinating the extremes people will go too, especially women, to lose weight. Starving themselves of proper nutrition in order to stick to that lemon diet, just so they can squeeze into that pretty dress on the weekend. Or exercising their butts off to the point of injury, fatigue and sheer exhaustion. Yet ask someone to show their … Read More

Is your priority YOU or something less?

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How do you spend your day? What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? If you were to draw up a pie chart that graphed all the areas that you put time and energy into, would it fit with what you really want? Your true desires? Or would it be a miss-match? We’ve all got priorities – whether … Read More

Are you a human DOing or a human BEing?

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I find it fascinating that as human BEing’s we tend to spend a lot more time doing than we do being. When was the last time you sat down and took time out from your hectic schedule to simply be? To give yourself a break from the societal noise and allow yourself to sink into a state of calm bliss? From the minute people awake, … Read More

Where are you getting your love this Valentines Day?

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We all want to feel loved on the most romantic day of the year, but left to chance, love could be missing this Valentines Day. That’s why I encourage people to start learning how to love yourself, as that’s the key to getting love, whether you’re in a relationship or still searching for your ‘Happily Every After’. When February 14th rolls around … Read More

Curiosi-tea… opening your mind to more.

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What does it mean to be curious about you? About life? How would your life be different if you lived each moment from a place of complete curiosity? That’s right, go into each situation, each interaction with a willingness and openness to understand and thus grow?  What you’d probably find is that there would be no more judgments or critisisms … Read More

Shopping for a lover.. online? Go on. Try it on for size!

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If it’s ok to shop online for books, clothes, and household goods, why are so many people hesitant to checking out the vast array of potential mates online? We seem to be fine with shopping around for the perfect car, the perfect dress, or the perfect nail colour, so is tracking down the perfect partner any different? Really? With people … Read More

‘Down-time’ the key to weight loss? Yes… really!

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With summer on our doorstep, many of us are looking to get our bodies bikini-ready for the beach. Diets. Exercise. They’re the typical recipes for weight loss and cellulite reduction, but what if de-stressing your life is the missing ingredient to shed the kilos? It’s hard to believe that stress can lead to weight gain, but it’s true. When we’re … Read More

Good friendships put the colour in your cheeks. How is your friend bank?

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A lack of good, positive friendships is a recipe for depression, loneliness and feelings of unworthiness. As human’s we’re meant to connect – we’re social creatures. We need, just as we need air, food and water, to be part of the woven pattern of human life. So, if you’re not bonding with people who give you permission to shine, it … Read More

The Love Sandwich… how to relate better!

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What’s your first reaction when someone criticises you or your work? Is it to put up a brick wall of defence so you no longer hear or take on anymore of the negativity thrown your way? What if there was a more positive approach to sharing your feedback, in a way that benefited both parties? Let’s consider what would happen differently, if that someone (perhaps … Read More

Follow your heart.

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We’ve all heard the expression ‘Follow Your Heart’, but what does that really mean? How do we tell the different between what our heart is telling us to do and what our brain is urging us to do? Our heart speaks to us every moment of every day, but most of us have stopping listening to its signal; it’s like … Read More

Guilt-free Easter

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Give in to your chocolate cravings and drink a cup of cacoa everyday – just for your health! Aha.. I’m recommending you drink chocolate!! Hot cacao is a great way to get nutrition while feeling devilishly decadent. The trick is buying cacao in its raw form, rather than succumbing to the highly processed low-grade hot chocolates that contain nothing but … Read More

Seeing your own beauty

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When you look in the mirror what do you see? Is it a beautiful soul in a beautiful body, or is it something less? Relationship therapist Tamra Mercieca why sometimes is can be difficult to see our own beauty. When you look in the mirror what do you see? Is it a beautiful soul in a beautiful body, or is it something … Read More

Play-time: How to get Happy!

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When was the last time you took time out to ‘play’? The reason I ask, is because there are plenty of benefits of returning to our child like state. Just look at how serious we have become as a society. It’s certainly not surprising given the expectations we put upon ourselves. High pressure jobs with long working hours designed to help … Read More

Tranquili-tea

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Who would have thought brewing a bowl of tea could be so insightful, so calming and so nurturing? If you’re open to it, observing and taking part in the Japanese Tea Ceremony can transform the way we live life. We all need something to help us unwind from the hustle and bustle of everyday life; shopping, golf, a beer at … Read More

Never Alone: Guide to Overcoming loneliness

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How well do you spend time alone? Think about that for a moment, because learning how to love your own company is a powerful feat. Spending time alone can be unnerving at first, but learning to be happy in your own company is one of the most valuable pursuits. Solitary time allows you to have a love affair with your … Read More

The Art of Smiling

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There is nothing more beautiful than seeing someone smile. A warm and friendly smile can make you feel better, cheer you up in times of doubt and increase the happiness in the world. Not only that, smiling, just like laughter, is infectious. A loving smile can improve your social life, give your job prospects a boost and send your confidence … Read More

Conscious Commitment

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It’s a word many of us are afraid of, but without it, achieving your goals and desires is often impossible. Yep, let’s talk about ‘commitment’. So what is it that stops us from committing? Often a fear of failure and sometime, even a fear of success. The one thing you need to realise however, is that unless you commit, you will … Read More

Confidence Creation

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Confidence. It’s something we all want, but sometimes it can be a difficult thing to embody. So lets get to the truth about confidence and how to get it. Confidence is one of those essential attributes that makes life flow that much easier. When we are confident we follow our passions and we feel at ease in social situations. When … Read More

The Sugar Blues

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How often do you indulge in something sweet, only to be left feeling like rubbish? Let’s takes a look at the relationship between sugar and our mood. Sugar is a known cause of altering mood. It gives your blood an instant rush of energy, but that does not last long. You will experience a drop in mood and energy an hour … Read More