You know what it’s like to be in a relationship where the other person is hot one minute, cold the next. It doesn’t feel that warm or fuzzy, does it? When they’re not ‘committing’ to you… Well, this is often how people are with themselves. They have this on-again off-again relationship. One minute they’re supporting themselves full out – doing … Read More
It’s really easy to say I will self-nurture once I get all these other tasks I ‘have’ to do out of the way. I’m sure you’ve said it. Hell, I used to say it ALL the time! I’ll just do these dishes, answer these emails, help my friend with her… what was I helping her with again? And then I’ll … Read More
This blog follows on from last week’s blog: Do you have a spiritual teacher? If you haven’t read it, I would suggest reading it first, then come back to this blog, as it will make more sense. We go to school to learn spelling, math, art and so forth, yet many of us don’t realise that our real school, where … Read More
It seems like we have many problems in life; the car breaking down, our partner leaving us, money struggles keeping us from having the life we desire, an overwhelming feeling of loneliness, diagnosis’ of depression, infertility, or even worse, cancer. Yet we really only have one problem. And that one problem is causing all of these other problems that we … Read More
Are you one for rituals? Do you have a certain way you put on your make-up or cook your breakfast? While I’m all for being spontaneous and enjoying the moment, I’m also a big advocate of having little daily practices that allow one to nurture and center his or herself. Life can get super chaotic at times and having little … Read More
Could you spend a day in silence? This is my challenge to you this week. We all have distractions and craziness in our lives. Between jobs, relationships, driving, food shopping, meals, kids after school programs, and finally making it to yoga class on Saturday morning, we have perfected multi-tasking at its best. Yet there comes a time when we need … Read More
What is self-love? We hear the words ‘self-love’ get thrown around the spiritual world willy-nilly, but not many of us actually practice self-love. For many people they don’t know how. Some don’t know what self-love actually is. I’ll take this moment now to share what self-love is, but I just ask you one thing: Don’t dismiss it’s simplicity. For it … Read More
We all know what a blood transfusion is. It’s giving blood intravenously to someone who needs more blood to physically stay alive. We certainly do need blood to keep our physical body alive, but in order to stay truly alive, we need love. Love is what energetically awakens us so we can feel deeply alive. Many people these days live … Read More
It was December last year when I received an email inviting me to speak on one of the most prestigious stages I have ever spoken on. To say I was jumping all over the place with the unbridled enthusiasm of a ninja in a leotard high on red cordial, would be a massive understatement. What followed was meeting with my … Read More
So what is Wabi Sabi? Pretty much everything that today’s sleek, perfectly mass-produced, technology-saturated culture is not. It’s flea markets and op shops as opposed to shopping malls, it’s rustic mis-match chairs instead of a perfectly symmetrical chair set, and it’s a bunch of wildflowers rather than a dozen long stemmed red roses. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy, which … Read More
‘Mummy, what is a scrotum?’ If you’re a parent, then you’ll know what it’s like to be asked questions about the human body and its functions. Depending on your own upbringing and how you were educated around sex, will determine how you feel about having those conversations. What’s really important to understand, is how we answer those innocent questions is … Read More
Do you have a spiritual practice? And if not, why not? Before I began my daily spiritual practice – of tuning into myself and clearing beliefs – I was living in a whirlpool of chaos, barely keeping my head above water. Yet when I started connecting with myself – for that is what a spiritual practice is about, connecting with … Read More
If you’ve ever had someone you care about walk out on you, you know it hurts. Abandonment is a shocking feeling. Yet few people realise they’re abandoning themselves on a daily basis. When we come home from a stressful day and reach for that glass of wine to take the edge of things, we’re numbing ourself. Abandoning ourself. Blinding ourself … Read More
If you’ve read my book Getting Naked – The Dating Game you’ll know I’ve seen my fair share of psychics. Desperate for love, I’d ask when he would arrive. Each time they’d tell me my Prince was coming, and each time I got soooo attached to this outcome, I’d unconsciously sabotage his arrival. Again, and again, and…. yes again… It … Read More
As many of you know I LOVE swing dancing! Growing up somewhat of a tomboy (playing drums and racing cars) I took a very masculine approach to life. When I say masculine, I mean I was very goal orientated, very driven and very active in pursuing that which I desired. For many people this would have been seen as a … Read More
In life we experience one of two things: Love or fear. We know we are experiencing love when we feel good, life makes us happy and we are deeply satisfied and content. Unfortunately for most people, this kind of experience is only fleeting, if existent at all. Why? Because we live in a fear-driven society. We are brought up to … Read More
Finding your life purpose can be like finding a needle in a haystack for some people. But it needn’t be that way. Discovering your life purpose is an exciting journey into self. If you struggle to know what you’re here for or often wonder what you’re meant to be doing with your life, you’re not alone. It’s been said by … Read More
Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself? Let me answer that for you… To love oneself means to accept, respect and believe in all that you are. When you have deep self love you have this inner knowing that anything is possible, and because of this, your … Read More
Being happy can be a foreigner or being happy can be your friend. If you’re like 99% of the population you’re probably looking for happiness in all the wrong places. And when you do find happiness, it only hangs around momentarily. What I’ve noticed since working as a Relationship Therapist and helping people develop their relationship with self so they … Read More
Our romantic relationship isn’t so different to our favourite pair of stilettos. Really! If the heel breaks off your stiletto, whom do you blame? The manufacturer, the shop owner who sold you the pretty shoes in the first place, the guy on the street who just happened to look your way as you went flying booty over tit into a … Read More
Are you stopping yourself from doing something because you’re not polished yet? Not perfect? Then you may be the victim of ‘Perfection Paralysis’. When we strive to be perfect at something, we do one of two things: We either work our proverbial butt off trying to reach this unreachable ‘perfect’ or we shy away from doing anything for fear of it not being perfect. … Read More
We all want connection. In fact, that’s what we crave, what we yearn for, right? Connection with others, but most importantly, connection with our self. Yet this deep soul connection remains elusive for most people. Why? Because instead of focusing on connecting, we humans tend to get caught up pursuing things that we think will deliver us that connection, seeking … Read More
It can be really difficult when someone shoots a vindictive arrow your way. I’m sure you can remember a time (or 50) where someone fired at you. Perhaps they said something mean or maybe they did something unforgettable that broke your trust. It hurt, yeah? Much more than a physical wound. You see, while physical wounds heal with time, emotional … Read More
I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one point in your life (perhaps a hundred or two) where you’ve tried to impress someone, or prove how good you are to them; bragging about some credential without any real reason to or talking yourself up amid meeting a new person in the hope of being accepted. To be liked! It’s easy … Read More
Let me begin this blog piece by asking: How much sleep do you average per night? Sleep is like putting the phone (our body) on the charger. Less than eight hours sleep is like operating on a dying battery. And unfortunately, not many people make good quality sleep the priority it needs to be. This is where I ask you … Read More
Ever wondered what it is that makes French women so alluring? Many things, as I’ve been learning during my study of the language.
Let’s be honest, wearing a bra can be a pain in the, err… Bust! Trudging into a fitting room, waiting to be measured, struggling into ten different styles to find the one that fits properly. Bra shopping often feels like more trouble than it’s worth. And according to one French scientist, it actually is! In this 15-year study it was … Read More
Often people put feelings and emotions in the same basket. Now while they are certainly similar, there are some distinguishing differences you really should know if you’re serious about living a happy life full of positive relationships. Put simply:Feelings are how you feel in the moment. Emotions are past unresolved feelings. To put that into context: Someone accidentally spills coffee on your lap. … Read More
We all have memories. And that’s because we all have a past. All those happy memories are great to reflect upon. It’s the awful, sometimes horrific memories that have the ability to unhinge us, break us down and haunt our daily existence. The great news is, no matter what ghosts are residing in your most precious self, they can be … Read More
Valentine’s Day has the ability to sweep you off your feet in one romantic heart-fluttering waltz, or leave you standing by the dance floor, feeling alone and dare I say, miserable. Singletons are usually the biggest causality on February 14, but even those of us in relationships can be left feeling bitterly disappointed when the roses (or in my case … Read More
We all have an inner meanie. You know the one I’m talking about. She/he’s negative, judgmental, constantly comparing you to other people and how well they’re doing or looking. She/he also likes to sabotage you in any way possible, such as keeping you busy doing all the things that will keep you from your dreams. You know your inner mean … Read More
If your family get-together makes you feel like you want to suffocate your siblings (or your parents) in a stocking, don’t despair, surviving xmas is possible. Truly! Christmas can be full of cheer and happiness and kisses under the mistletoe, if you do a little internal work and recognise that any trigger points round the dinner table are the most … Read More
The good ‘ol biological clock can send us into a head spin, if by thirty (or even forty for some ladies) they have not yet found the man they wish to procreate with. I see single women go on a date with the intention to marry the first man who will give her their sperm, instead of actually finding a … Read More
Sex isn’t usually the topic of conversation at morning tea, unless of course you’re Samantha from Sex And The City! But how many of us ladies LOVE that show? Why do we get so into it? Because it looks at a topic that most of us aren’t privy to in our everyday working lives: Sex. We do it. It’s what made us, yet … Read More
We all have stories. Some people have happy stories; other people have challenging stories that bring pain. I’m sure you’re familiar with stories like: ‘Oh, my car wouldn’t start and now I’m running late for work, and then I spilled coffee in my lap, and it was all because my husband left the lights on in the car last night, … Read More
We read it in romance novels, we hear it in Hollywood movies, hell, I’m sure a few friends of yours have thrown around the line: ‘He completes me’. Do you subscribe to this statement? Or do you realise that it’s one of the most disempowering phrases you can think, let alone say out loud. Why do I smash this statement apart … Read More
It’s not often I single out women, but they seem to be the main culprits when it comes to thinking they can change a man. How many times do we hear her say: ‘Oh, it’s ok I’ll change him once we’re married’, or ‘He’s changing into the man I want him to be? Well, I’ve gotta ask: Why did you date him … Read More
Most long-term relationships have their high seasons and their low seasons; one minute the tree of love is ripe with mouth-watering fruit, and the next the apples are rotting on the ground. No matter which part of the season you’re at in your relationship, you can salvage the crop and have juicy, delicious fruit all year round. Whether you’ve been … Read More
We often hear people say they want to be happy and ‘fulfilled’. Well we all know what happiness feels like, but how many of us really know what if feels like to be fulfilled? Have you stopped to consider what fulfilment really is? Are you one of those people who is ever striving for this so-called ‘fulfilment’, without sitting down … Read More
When you have a win, what do you do? Do you celebrate your success or do you move on without so much as a blink of an eyelash? When I experience a win I ‘happy dance’! Yes, I jump around the room in all my glory, legs and arms moving about in sometimes-hideous displays of joy in order to mark … Read More
We all want to feel happy, loved… hell… we want to have fun, positive experiences, yeah? Some people try to reach those happy states of being by booking in for an extravagant holiday, others let a Hollywood movie deliver them that cliché ‘happily ever after’. But where are those real happy (warm and fuzzy inside) feelings to be found? In the people, not … Read More
Have you ever stretched yourself? Not in the physical way a dancer or a keen yoga student might, but in the way that helps you break through personal barriers so you can experience a life far richer than you have in the past? Stretching yourself mentally helps you turn your life into a fairytale adventure where you live your ‘happily … Read More
I find it fascinating the extremes people will go too, especially women, to lose weight. Starving themselves of proper nutrition in order to stick to that lemon diet, just so they can squeeze into that pretty dress on the weekend. Or exercising their butts off to the point of injury, fatigue and sheer exhaustion. Yet ask someone to show their … Read More
How do you spend your day? What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? If you were to draw up a pie chart that graphed all the areas that you put time and energy into, would it fit with what you really want? Your true desires? Or would it be a miss-match? We’ve all got priorities – whether … Read More
I find it fascinating that as human BEing’s we tend to spend a lot more time doing than we do being. When was the last time you sat down and took time out from your hectic schedule to simply be? To give yourself a break from the societal noise and allow yourself to sink into a state of calm bliss? From the minute people awake, … Read More
We all want to feel loved on the most romantic day of the year, but left to chance, love could be missing this Valentines Day. That’s why I encourage people to start learning how to love yourself, as that’s the key to getting love, whether you’re in a relationship or still searching for your ‘Happily Every After’. When February 14th rolls around … Read More
A lack of good, positive friendships is a recipe for depression, loneliness and feelings of unworthiness. As human’s we’re meant to connect – we’re social creatures. We need, just as we need air, food and water, to be part of the woven pattern of human life. So, if you’re not bonding with people who give you permission to shine, it … Read More
Relationships, when going well, give us an undeniable zest of life – topping us up with strength, ambition and an unshakable belief in our most precious selves. When they’re not going so well however, they have the potential to bring out our inner witch, throwing us into a world of uncertainty and chaos. So next time you find yourself arguing … Read More
Don’t be hard on yourself for saying ‘Yes’ all the time. The fact that you like to ‘people-please’ (as some people call it) shows that you are a really kind and giving person. You simply need to balance that out, so you have enough time and energy to nurture you, instead of being left depleted and put yourself at risk … Read More
We’ve all heard the expression ‘Follow Your Heart’, but what does that really mean? How do we tell the different between what our heart is telling us to do and what our brain is urging us to do? Our heart speaks to us every moment of every day, but most of us have stopping listening to its signal; it’s like … Read More
