Do you have a daily ritual? 6 practices I do every day.
Are you one for rituals? Do you have a certain way you put on your make-up or cook your breakfast? While I’m all for being spontaneous and enjoying the moment, I’m also a big advocate of having little daily practices that allow one to nurture and center his or herself. Life can get super chaotic at times and having little … Read More
Are vibrators killing your pleasure?
If you’ve seen my talks at Sexpo, you’ll know I warn ladies in particular, about the dangers of overusing vibrators. So I thought is wise to use this week’s blog to explain why! But before I tell you how vibrators kill your pleasure, let’s looks at how the vibrator came about, shall we? Would you believe the vibrator was actually … Read More
Is your ego controlling your life?
So what is the ego that all the spiritual gurus talk of? The ego is an image you have of yourself that gives you a sense of identity – and that identity takes shape from the things you tell yourself and the things other people say about you, that you accept as truth. Those patterns and behaviours and labels you … Read More
Silence: The antidote to life’s woes
Could you spend a day in silence? This is my challenge to you this week. We all have distractions and craziness in our lives. Between jobs, relationships, driving, food shopping, meals, kids after school programs, and finally making it to yoga class on Saturday morning, we have perfected multi-tasking at its best. Yet there comes a time when we need … Read More
Get rid of anxiety in two minutes flat!
Anxiety can be absolutely crippling. I should know, after experiencing my fair share of panic attacks, before I learnt what I’m about to share with YOU! Now before I teach you this 2-minute exercise that will eliminate anxiety, there’s a couple of things you need to understand. Firstly.. what is anxiety? Anxiety is a fear of what might happen in … Read More
Solve sexual health issues with squats!
Squats will do more than help you get a nice booty and thighs of steel; they’re one of the best exercises for strengthening the internal muscles in the pelvic floor. Now the term ‘pelvic floor’ refers to the group of muscles that form a muscular hammock across the opening of the pelvic. These muscles, together with the surrounding tissues, keep … Read More
Heal your life through the Art of Self-Love
What is self-love? We hear the words ‘self-love’ get thrown around the spiritual world willy-nilly, but not many of us actually practice self-love. For many people they don’t know how. Some don’t know what self-love actually is. I’ll take this moment now to share what self-love is, but I just ask you one thing: Don’t dismiss it’s simplicity. For it … Read More
Are you in need of a love infusion? Energy healing explained…
We all know what a blood transfusion is. It’s giving blood intravenously to someone who needs more blood to physically stay alive. We certainly do need blood to keep our physical body alive, but in order to stay truly alive, we need love. Love is what energetically awakens us so we can feel deeply alive. Many people these days live … Read More
Date yourself: The answer to inner peace and happiness.
No doubt you’ve been on a date… or three. How was it? Did it give you Goosebumps? It was after kissing a few too many toads, without any of them turning into my Prince, that I decided to stop dating men, and start dating myself. Date yourself? ‘Yes’… with a nice big cherry on top! Why? This week I have … Read More
A lesson in Self-Resect… And why I pulled out of a HUGE speaking gig!
It was December last year when I received an email inviting me to speak on one of the most prestigious stages I have ever spoken on. To say I was jumping all over the place with the unbridled enthusiasm of a ninja in a leotard high on red cordial, would be a massive understatement. What followed was meeting with my … Read More
Wabi Sabi your life: See perfection in imperfection.
So what is Wabi Sabi? Pretty much everything that today’s sleek, perfectly mass-produced, technology-saturated culture is not. It’s flea markets and op shops as opposed to shopping malls, it’s rustic mis-match chairs instead of a perfectly symmetrical chair set, and it’s a bunch of wildflowers rather than a dozen long stemmed red roses. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese philosophy, which … Read More
How to get more money! Your 5-step guide.
If there’s one thing I see daily, its people with money problems. Money really is one of the leading causes of stress and worry. Given stress is responsible for 70% of all illness and disease, you don’t want money making you sick! Many people come to me and say ‘I know your program will help me turn my financial situation … Read More
How to raise children without sexual shame
‘Mummy, what is a scrotum?’ If you’re a parent, then you’ll know what it’s like to be asked questions about the human body and its functions. Depending on your own upbringing and how you were educated around sex, will determine how you feel about having those conversations. What’s really important to understand, is how we answer those innocent questions is … Read More
We ALL need a spiritual practice. Here’s why…
Do you have a spiritual practice? And if not, why not? Before I began my daily spiritual practice – of tuning into myself and clearing beliefs – I was living in a whirlpool of chaos, barely keeping my head above water. Yet when I started connecting with myself – for that is what a spiritual practice is about, connecting with … Read More
Abandonment: Have you walked out on yourself?
If you’ve ever had someone you care about walk out on you, you know it hurts. Abandonment is a shocking feeling. Yet few people realise they’re abandoning themselves on a daily basis. When we come home from a stressful day and reach for that glass of wine to take the edge of things, we’re numbing ourself. Abandoning ourself. Blinding ourself … Read More
What you must know BEFORE you see a psychic
If you’ve read my book Getting Naked – The Dating Game you’ll know I’ve seen my fair share of psychics. Desperate for love, I’d ask when he would arrive. Each time they’d tell me my Prince was coming, and each time I got soooo attached to this outcome, I’d unconsciously sabotage his arrival. Again, and again, and…. yes again… It … Read More
How to stay juicy through menopause
Going through menopause doesn’t need to be a rough sea of hormonal changes and emotional turmoil. You can sail smoothly through menopause. Many women see menopause as the end of a woman’s sexuality, when it couldn’t be further from it. In fact, many women find menopause is just the beginning! Menopause is a time when women really arrive into their … Read More
Let me introduce you to the subconscious mind…
How do you feel when an ‘error’ pops up on your computer screen? Frustrated? Annoyed? Shitty? When our computer stops working the way it’s meant to, stopping us getting done what we wish to complete, it can be really… well… Much like life really! Everyday we have little ‘error’ signs popping up; challenges and obstacles getting in the way of … Read More
Embrace your feminine: Is your approach to life too masculine?
As many of you know I LOVE swing dancing! Growing up somewhat of a tomboy (playing drums and racing cars) I took a very masculine approach to life. When I say masculine, I mean I was very goal orientated, very driven and very active in pursuing that which I desired. For many people this would have been seen as a … Read More
Genital numbness: Is your vagina asleep?
There are very few people today who are not experiencing some degree of genital numbness. Now when I say ‘genital numbness’, if you can’t feel deep orgasmic pleasure from not much more than feather-soft strokes, then chances are you have genital numbness. But before you get worried about having some terrible affliction, let me explain what genital numbness actually is. … Read More
Does your body run like an old car? Stress-free tips for a healthy YOU!
Too much stress and your body will soon be broken down on the side of the road. It’s as simple as that. Believe it or not, stress is responsible for 70% of all illnesses and diseases. Yes, it’s that huge! And when you look at how stressed most people are today, is it any wonder so many people are in … Read More
Love heals: Heal your life through love.
In life we experience one of two things: Love or fear. We know we are experiencing love when we feel good, life makes us happy and we are deeply satisfied and content. Unfortunately for most people, this kind of experience is only fleeting, if existent at all. Why? Because we live in a fear-driven society. We are brought up to … Read More
Sexual shame: Are you a victim?
Do you deny, suppress or judge your sexual desires? Do you contract or feel pain, shame or guilt during or after sex? If you do, you’re not alone. It is a statistical fact that little girls are restricted, shamed, punished and made to feel guilty about their body and what they do with it. What does this breed? Nations of … Read More
Feeling alone? Then let those cards fall from your chest.
Do you hold your cards too close to your chest? Are you someone who prefers not to share your struggles, your wins, your road map for life? I’ve come a across a few people recently who are quite secretive about their life choices. They hold their cards very close to their chest for one of two reasons… Either they’re scared … Read More
Your life purpose: How to find it and rock it!
Finding your life purpose can be like finding a needle in a haystack for some people. But it needn’t be that way. Discovering your life purpose is an exciting journey into self. If you struggle to know what you’re here for or often wonder what you’re meant to be doing with your life, you’re not alone. It’s been said by … Read More
Give the gift of love this Christmas.
Struggling to buy gifts for those hard-to-buy-for people in your life? Then why not offer them the gift of love! ‘Ha?’ I hear you say! ‘That’s not something I can give another person.’ Actually it is. You just need to be open to showing love, gratitude and perhaps even get a little creative. Which is fun, right? Everyone I know … Read More
Ladies beware: Your sexual organs could quite literally fall out of you!
We all know the side effects of not brushing our teeth. Abandon the toothbrush long enough and your teeth are likely to rot and fall out. Well a woman’s sexual organs are no different. Autopsies done on nuns have shown their sexual organs completely rotted out due to non-use. And this is more common than you might realise. Almost one … Read More
Is your life a balancing act? Life Balance 101.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles with life balance from time to time. I am a Libra after all, so my life lesson is balance, if you’re one of those lovely Astrology-nerds! Where do I struggle most? Finding time for all the things I love! Learning French, pole dancing, swing dancing with my fiancé, knitting skirts, wanting to … Read More
Self love: Three keys to loving YOU!
Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself? Let me answer that for you… To love oneself means to accept, respect and believe in all that you are. When you have deep self love you have this inner knowing that anything is possible, and because of this, your … Read More
Freedom from fear: Are you listening to your dreams?
With a wedding on the horizon, it’s no surprise that my dreams have taken me down the isle of tiaras and cakes and flowers. But last night I had a wedding dream that wasn’t so white and pretty. There I was about to walk down the isle in my big white poufy dress (vintage-style of course!) when I realised my … Read More
Emotional Health: Poisoning your mind with what you eat?
Our emotional health is intimately connected to the food we put in our body. We may not think it is, but next time you eat a block of chocolate take the time to notice how you feel emotionally half an hour later. Down. Low on energy. Perhaps even a little cranky? Why is this? Refined sugar is one of the main foods … Read More
Being happy is easier than you may think!
Being happy can be a foreigner or being happy can be your friend. If you’re like 99% of the population you’re probably looking for happiness in all the wrong places. And when you do find happiness, it only hangs around momentarily. What I’ve noticed since working as a Relationship Therapist and helping people develop their relationship with self so they … Read More
The ultimate relationship makeover: Build self-confidence
Our romantic relationship isn’t so different to our favourite pair of stilettos. Really! If the heel breaks off your stiletto, whom do you blame? The manufacturer, the shop owner who sold you the pretty shoes in the first place, the guy on the street who just happened to look your way as you went flying booty over tit into a … Read More
How to have an orgasm full of flavour
Don’t be shy. Learning how to have an orgasm – that’s deliciously divine – is as important as learning how to cook – and a hell of a lot more fun! And while you may be having orgasms already, most people do not know how to have an orgasm that truly satisfies. A gourmet orgasm full of flavour. An orgasm … Read More
Anxiety cure: The ‘how-to’ guide that works!
Anxiety can be like having a lasso around your neck. Just one small tug and you’re left gasping for air. Yet life doesn’t have to be this way. You can cure anxiety. And it all starts with understanding one simply fact: Anxiety is simply a fear of the future. If you’re not in your head worrying about possible outcomes, then … Read More
Perfection Paralysis. Are you trying to be perfect?
Are you stopping yourself from doing something because you’re not polished yet? Not perfect? Then you may be the victim of ‘Perfection Paralysis’. When we strive to be perfect at something, we do one of two things: We either work our proverbial butt off trying to reach this unreachable ‘perfect’ or we shy away from doing anything for fear of it not being perfect. … Read More
Kegel exercises: Do they really work?
‘Do your Kegel exercises … Strengthen your pelvic floor …’ If you’ve given birth, chances are you’ve been told this at least once, and even if you haven’t given birth, you’ve probably read about Kegels in some women’s magazine touting their importance. Who wants to wet their pants every time they sneeze, right? The problem is, if you’re doing Kegel … Read More
Love story: Are you living yours?
Every love story has a beginning. And it usually starts with someone searching for true love. I know for me, I always wanted to find ‘The One’. The romantic in me always on the lookout for her Prince, always hoping to experience that deep heart-felt connection. And for many years I searched and searched, experiencing flings and rendezvous’ that while … Read More
Money love: How healthy is your relationship with money?
If you were in a relationship with someone who despised you, neglected you, feared you and ignored you, would you stay? Probably not. Yet this is how most people treat their money. As strange as it may sound, we are in relationship with everything in our life. Including money. Is it any wonder then, for most people, that their moolah … Read More
Too Busy? Do you know how to press pause?
When you finish an activity do you rush off to your next busy engagement like a mouse being chased by a cat, or do you take a moment pause? To be with your experience and be with yourself? Most people’s lives are so full to the brim they’re bursting at the seams, relationships and productivity compromised by this multi-tasking society … Read More
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Do you sometimes feel like a huge tsunami is crashing in on you? Is your life filled with perceived threats? Financial sharks, relationship eels, health jellyfish all creating a life driven by fear. We perceive danger at every corner of our life, using drugs, alcohol, unhealthy foods, smoking, retail therapy and the like, to dampen our consciousness and impair our ability … Read More