‘I can’t (insert desire)’. Sure you CAN!

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What happens when you say you ‘I can’t do it’?

It automatically sets up an expectation that you can’t do whatever it is that you would like to do.

I can’t eat well, I can’t change jobs, I can’t find a good man, I can’t afford that course, I can’t find the time to have a self-love practise, I can’t get ahead in life, I can’t… and the list goes son and on and on.

Believing you ‘can’t do something’ comes from subconscious programming you took on as a child.

Programming, that in most cases, you adopted from your parents, or those you spent a lot of time around growing up.

It is this programming that has you believing things about yourself that simply isn’t true.

You might challenge that and say: ‘But I have proof that I can’t do this’.

And maybe you do have proof.

But that proof came about because you have that belief about yourself first.

Because you believed you couldn’t do something, you acted and behaved in ways that proved this belief to be true.

What you need to understand, is that the belief came first.

Not the other way around.

And your actions and behaviours since that belief was taken on as a child has since led you down a path of creating circumstances that help you validate this belief about yourself.

Yet the truth is, it is simply a belief.

The great news is, you can get rid of beliefs.

That is how you break through old behaviour patterns and unhealthy habits.

Now as you know, this is my speciality: Helping people clear their beliefs, so they CAN do what they desire in life.

But there is something YOU can do on your own to start loosening those beliefs so it they longer have that intense hold over you.

And it’s not difficult… although it does take conscious commitment.

What do you need to do?

Notice every time you say ‘I can’t do (insert the thing you believe you can’t do here)’.

As soon as you notice yourself saying ‘I can’t do…’, correct yourself, and change it do ‘I couldn’t do …’ in the past.

For that is the truth.

Sure you didn’t do it then, but the past is not an indicator of the present.

Or can be, or you can decide it not to be.

You can do ANYTHING in the present… if you don’t drag the past into the present.

Make sense?

When you say ‘I couldn’t do that before’, it opens up possibility.

And with possibility comes the freedom to change old patterns and behaviours.

It’s such a simple trick, but so so powerful.

Change your ‘I can’ts’ into ‘I couldn’t befores’ and start to notice how differently you approach life.

We are the only ones who get in the way of us having what we want.


We think something and those thoughts disable us.

Yet we can change our thoughts.

We can change the way we think about ourselves and what we are capable.

Go on, give it go.

Spend a week changing your ‘I can’ts’ into ‘ I couldn’t before’ and then leave a comment below sharing what you noticed about how you felt about your abilities and life in general.

And for those who are ready to for some intensive mind re-programming, then check out my One-on-One Intensive where I hold your hand through this beautiful unfolding.

I only have six spots available so if you would like one, simply email me tamra@gettingnaked.com.au to discuss how you can apply for your spot to work alongside me one-on-one.

If there’s one thing you need to know, it is this: YOU CAN!

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