The Love Sandwich… how to relate better!

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What’s your first reaction when someone criticises you or your work? Is it to put up a brick wall of defence so you no longer hear or take on anymore of the negativity thrown your way? What if there was a more positive approach to sharing your feedback, in a way that benefited both parties? Let’s consider what would happen differently, if that someone (perhaps … Read More

Stress! Killing you softly with its kiss.

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Yes, stress is the number one killer in the world, responsible for 70% of all illnesses and diseases today. And why do I bring this alarming statistic to your attention? Because it’s preventable. We don’t have to experience stress – we can learn to stress-less and live our lives from a place of ease and flow. All we need to … Read More

To flirt or not to flirt.. at work?

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That is certainly the question!! And with so many of us working long tiresome hours, it’s no surprise that office romance blossoms into existence. Know that just because you practically live at your desk, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a little romance. Office romance may often be frowned upon, but give you have common ground, that’s a great foundation for … Read More

The Darker Shade of Grey – Say ‘No’ to Suicide

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Having travelled the roller-coaster of suicide attempts and lived to tell the story, I am more than familiar with the darker shades of grey – you may know them as depression. Unfortunately, there are many more who did not make it, with suicide being the leading cause of death for Aussies under the age of 44. The reason I bring … Read More

Script Your Own Life

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Who’s writing the script for your life? Can you honestly say you’re the star, the director, the producer and the scriptwriter? And if not…. Why? As some of you know I’m in talks to have my own story, Getting Naked – The Dating Game, turned into a major motion movie. But that got me thinking…. I may be scripting my … Read More

Do You Have Hysteria?

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Do you have hysteria? If so, maybe you’re not getting enough … ! If you’ve watched the new movie, Hysteria, you’ll have at least a vague understanding of the need for sexual satisfaction. Without it, women can cause all sorts of trouble, from road rage and acting out to experiencing depression and creating emotional scenes from seemingly nothing. The word … Read More

Follow your heart.

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We’ve all heard the expression ‘Follow Your Heart’, but what does that really mean? How do we tell the different between what our heart is telling us to do and what our brain is urging us to do? Our heart speaks to us every moment of every day, but most of us have stopping listening to its signal; it’s like … Read More

The winter blues

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The cold dreary days of winter are upon us and that can be dangerous for those prone to depression. But we don’t have to get SAD. We’re all familiar with depression these days, but how much do you know about it’s seasonal cousin? Seasonal Affective Disorder or ‘sunlight starvation’ usually strikes at the start of winter and ends in spring … Read More

Bring on the zeds

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The night’s are longer and the days are shorter; all we want to do is sleep. Which isn’t a bad thing! June 21st 2012 marks the shortest day of the year, or as some people like to call it the Winter Solstice. So snuggling under the covers for a good dose of shut-eye couldn’t be more inviting. The great news is, … Read More

Surviving Valentine’s Day single

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Being single on Valentines Day can be tough, but making it through the most romantic day of the year can be a real eye-opener, if you’re up for the challenge. I believe, learning how to date yourself is the first step to attracting a healthy and loving relationship with someone else. When February the 14th rolls around loved up couples will be focusing … Read More

Think yourself rich

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Money can put a real strain on you and your loved ones. It can leave us desperate to find an answer so we can lift the financial burden. And perhaps you have no idea why you’ve always had money issues; why you’re still struggling to make ends meet. If this is you, you’re certainly not alone. Many people in today’s world … Read More

Festive feng shui

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Christmas is traditionally a time to celebrate, but sometimes family tensions can sour the day.  But what if you could use a little Feng Shui to to minimise eruptions between long lost relatives, and create a harmonious atmosphere? We all want December 25 to be as smooth and fun filled as possible, and Feng Shui has been shown to be super effective … Read More

Is anger making you unhappy?

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Contrary to its bad press, anger is a defining emotion. It is the gift of setting boundaries. Yes, anger can act as a barometer for what has gone wrong, where people have overstepped a person’s limits, or where injustice is occurring. It happens far too often, we let our anger make us unhappy. We get caught up in the emotion, … Read More

Perfect posture

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Stand up straight! Don’t slouch! Yes, standing in a well-aligned tension-free way, will do do more than keep you physically healthy; it’s good for our mental health too! You can tell a lot about a person by their posture. Have you ever seen someone glide or stride into a room and command instant attention or respect? The simple fact is humans are drawn … Read More

Toxic tears

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Turning on the waterworks can make you feel better, both physically and emotionally. Yes it’s true. Crying heals the mind, body and soul. William Shakespeare was spot on when he wrote: “To weep is to make less the debt of grief.” Researchers have found, not only do tears reduce tensions; they remove toxins, and increase the body’s ability to heal … Read More

Reach your potential

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Could you be getting more out of your life, but are not sure how to go about it?  Let’s explore how to reach your potential. Now I’ll be honest, potential is a hard thing to measure. What is a person’s full potential? According to the top quantum physicists and scientists alike we are only using 10% of the possible neurological … Read More

Liver detox

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To detox or not to detox, that is the question. And the first thing I’ll say about this is that: Our liver is our body’s natural cleanser. After eating up (and drinking up) a storm over the festive season, your natural reaction may be to do a detox, but at the end of the day, our liver’s main function is … Read More

The truth about hypnosis

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For centuries, hypnosis has gone in and out of vogue, but now there is finally sufficient scientific evidence that proves its effectiveness. Having trained in Therapeutic Hypnotist myself I felt I’d write a little blog to lift the veil on what this age old therapy is all about. Forget what you know about hypnosis from movies or television programs. If you … Read More

Eye contact

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The eyes are more than just the ‘windows to the soul; they’re a powerful communication tool! Let’s have a look at how to use our eyes to enhance study, boost sales, and even score a date. Eye contact is often an overlooked aspect of communication, but believe it or not, it can tell a lot about a person. So-called ‘Introverts’ … Read More

Ignite your sixth sense, intuition.

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Flutter your third eye, it’s time to tune into your gut instincts. This week I wanted to take a look at how to sharpen your intuition. Let go of any preconceived ideas surrounding what you may already believe intuition to be. Intuition is no different from our other five senses; seeing, hearing, touching, smelling and tasting. Learning how to use … Read More

The swing revival

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Swing dancing is making a comeback and it’s not just the infectious rhythm and foot-stomping moves drawing in the crowds.  I decided to take a few classes to find out why swing fever is so infectious. Swing dancing may not be new – just ask your grandparents for tips on a “jockey” or “throwout” – but it certainly is now. People everywhere … Read More

Water works

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Unless you’re from Mars, you’ve heard about the ‘eight glasses of water a day’ thing. Yet it’s amazing how many people don’t drink enough, hence why I felt the need to look at the dangers of dehydration this week. Most people these days are running around on a daily basis dehydrated to some extent. Unless you’re drinking two to three … Read More

Guilt-free Easter

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Give in to your chocolate cravings and drink a cup of cacoa everyday – just for your health! Aha.. I’m recommending you drink chocolate!! Hot cacao is a great way to get nutrition while feeling devilishly decadent. The trick is buying cacao in its raw form, rather than succumbing to the highly processed low-grade hot chocolates that contain nothing but … Read More

Grateful in April

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We could all be a little more grateful, couldn’t we? Let’s looks at the benefits of showing gratitude by starting with exploring what gratitude actually is! Gratitude is an emotion expressing appreciation for what one has – as opposed to, say, a consumer oriented emphasis on what one wants or needs. Gratitude is what gets poured into the glass to … Read More

Love is Laughter

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The secret ingredient in love is laughter, and as Oscar Wilde once said “relationships are too important to be taken seriously”. Relationship therapist Tamra Mercieca looks at how laughter can enhance relationships. Laughter in a relationship is a treasure. It is one of our primary reasons for even wanting a partner. All of us can feel the magic power of … Read More

Seeing your own beauty

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When you look in the mirror what do you see? Is it a beautiful soul in a beautiful body, or is it something less? Relationship therapist Tamra Mercieca why sometimes is can be difficult to see our own beauty. When you look in the mirror what do you see? Is it a beautiful soul in a beautiful body, or is it something … Read More

Exercise therapy

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Keeping fit, managing your weight, and warding off disease are all side-effects of exercise. But did you know getting physical can do wonders for your mental health too? Though it may seem impossible sometimes, exercise is one of the best ways to deal with stress and even mental illnesses. Physical activity alters brain chemistry and leads to feelings of wellbeing. … Read More

Taking responsibility

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If you mess up, fess up! That’s just one of the secrets to creating a happy future. Let’s looks at how to get back in the driver’s seat of your life. There is something that great leaders, respected mentors and those people who always seem to be happy have in common, and that’s something called personal responsibility. People who accept responsibility, … Read More

Energy Vampires: How to Identify Life Suckers

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Every human interaction involves an energy exchange, but some people – known as energy vampires – simply drain you dry. So lets have a look at how to identify those life suckers. Even if you feel great, energy vampires can leave you feeling lethargic and depressed – or with physical symptoms, like a headache – quicker than you can say ‘crucifix’. … Read More

Overcoming Fear

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Fear can freeze us; stopping us from moving forward. In this blog I share some tips tips on how to overcome our fears. We are taught fear at a very young age. It is a learned behaviour, therefore it can, if we wish, be educated out of us. Fear is a way of thinking that has the ability to hinder … Read More

Visualise your future

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Step out of your body and into your mind and attract in a fabulous life. That is the power of visualisations. Creative visualisation is a mental technique that uses the imagination to make dreams and goals come true. Used in the right way, it can improve your life and attract success and happiness, giving you the power to alter your … Read More

Dealing with disappointment

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We all know that life is full of ups and downs. Dealign with disappointment is a learned skill, so let’s have a look at this in more detail… It’s hard not to be disillusioned with ourselves and others when we expect so much. We are groomed to demand the best, to want everything, all the time. And when we mere … Read More

Play-time: How to get Happy!

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When was the last time you took time out to ‘play’? The reason I ask, is because there are plenty of benefits of returning to our child like state. Just look at how serious we have become as a society. It’s certainly not surprising given the expectations we put upon ourselves. High pressure jobs with long working hours designed to help … Read More

Tranquili-tea

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Who would have thought brewing a bowl of tea could be so insightful, so calming and so nurturing? If you’re open to it, observing and taking part in the Japanese Tea Ceremony can transform the way we live life. We all need something to help us unwind from the hustle and bustle of everyday life; shopping, golf, a beer at … Read More

Never Alone: Guide to Overcoming loneliness

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How well do you spend time alone? Think about that for a moment, because learning how to love your own company is a powerful feat. Spending time alone can be unnerving at first, but learning to be happy in your own company is one of the most valuable pursuits. Solitary time allows you to have a love affair with your … Read More

The Art of Smiling

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There is nothing more beautiful than seeing someone smile. A warm and friendly smile can make you feel better, cheer you up in times of doubt and increase the happiness in the world. Not only that, smiling, just like laughter, is infectious. A loving smile can improve your social life, give your job prospects a boost and send your confidence … Read More

Conscious Commitment

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It’s a word many of us are afraid of, but without it, achieving your goals and desires is often impossible. Yep, let’s talk about ‘commitment’. So what is it that stops us from committing? Often a fear of failure and sometime, even a fear of success. The one thing you need to realise however, is that unless you commit, you will … Read More

Confidence Creation

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Confidence. It’s something we all want, but sometimes it can be a difficult thing to embody. So lets get to the truth about confidence and how to get it. Confidence is one of those essential attributes that makes life flow that much easier. When we are confident we follow our passions and we feel at ease in social situations. When … Read More

The Sugar Blues

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How often do you indulge in something sweet, only to be left feeling like rubbish? Let’s takes a look at the relationship between sugar and our mood. Sugar is a known cause of altering mood. It gives your blood an instant rush of energy, but that does not last long. You will experience a drop in mood and energy an hour … Read More