Frequently Asked Questions
Read on below for the answers to the most common questions I get asked about the Sexual Self 2-month online course….
1. I don’t have a partner, can I still do the course?
Absolutely! In fact, you already have a partner: YOU! Solo sex offers endless opportunities for sexual and spiritual growth, not to mention boundless bliss. If you’re single, it’s really important to keep that energy going. Self-play, where you show yourself love, is so vitally important. Even when in a relationship, you still want to spend time self-pleasuring as this allows you to learn how to expand your pleasure in new ways.
If you are single, clearing space and working on yourself will help you get ready for the next person you bring into your life (if indeed you wish to bring someone new in – you may just enjoy having a love affair with YOU!) It’s a very important time that should be used to get to know yourself intimately. All of that said, this course isn’t just about sex. It’s about clearing conditioning, it’s about inviting more pleasure into daily activities and learning how to heal your body in new ways; all of which can be done solo.
2. I do have a partner. Can I use what I learn with them?
Yes, yes, YES! I highly encourage you to apply what you learn in the course with your partner if you have one. There will be specific exercises for couples (that can be adapted for singles) to help you both experience a much deeper expression of who you truly are within that relationship.
3. Does my partner need to do the course?
No. While they would certainly get a lot of it, it’s not necessary. Ultimately, if you learn how to awaken YOUR sexual self through the exercises and insights you’ll receive, you’ll be able to take these into the bedroom and enjoy much deeper orgasmic ecstasy with your partner.
Despite what some might believe, our partner is NOT responsible for our orgasms. WE are responsible for our own orgasms. Once you activate your pleasure zones and learn the art of moving sexual energy around the body, then your partner will barely need to touch you and you’ll be riding your own orgasmic rollercoaster – one glorious peak after the next!
4. I’m really busy. How much time do I need to dedicate to the course?
It’s entirely up to you! Obviously the more time and energy you put in, the more you’ll get out of it. Ideally you’d want to spend around half an hour per day on the exercises – on top of your daily tune in – but given you can download ALL of the course content to keep for life, you can take your time and slowly incorporate the learning into your daily routine. There’s no rush.
The course is packed full of delicious offerings designed to keep you satiated for years to come. So my advice would be, apply the learnings at your own pace and reap the benefits, as you desire. Going deep into your sexual self is a lifelong journey that never ends. You can always have a deeper, yummier and more profound orgasmic experience. There is no limit to the pleasure you can enjoy!
5. I feel a little nervous about doing the course. Is this normal?
Absolutely! Unfortunately there is still a taboo around sex and it can be quite difficult to escape the pressure to keep sex under the covers. Just know that sex is a natural part of being human. It’s what created us, and believe it or not, we were actually pleasuring ourselves into arousal inside our mother’s womb!
Facts aside, the course is carried out in a really nurturing and caring format where you’re supported to explore at your own pace as you feel comfortable. Know that fear and nervousness are common feelings leading into a course such as this. Given all the negative programming we’ve taken on – including shame and guilt – it’s a completely normal response to have. Just know that it’s only when you step out of your comfort zone that can you expand your experience of pleasure and move past old sexual patterns.
6. I was sexually abused years ago. Will this course help?
A massive ‘Yes’! Not only do I teach you techniques to help draw the physical trauma out of the genitals, I teach you the skills to clear the emotional trauma as well. You will learn how to gently release the sexual trauma on all levels so you can reconnect with your body and enjoy deep self-love.
The side effects of any sexual abuse stay with us only as long as we allow them too. Once you apply the techniques learnt in this course – and are able to gather new meaning from those experiences – you will be free to experience the deep pleasure that is your birthright. No one deserves to be haunted by their past.
That said, if you feel like you need extra support, then you may wish to complete the One-on-One Intensive, alongside Sexual Self, so you can receive the one-on-one support you need to help you heal from the abuse. Only you know if you feel more comfortable healing solo or with a therapist holding your virtual hand 🙂
7. My libido is non-existent. Can this course help me get my mojo back?
Sure can. Every one of us has a libido. It’s just that many of us have shutdown that part of ourselves due to societal conditioning or negative sexual experiences. Once you start to clear the programming and use physical movement and touch to get the stuck energy moving again, you’ll re-connect with the hum of your sexual energy easily and effortlessly.
When a person’s libido – or sexual energy – is stagnant, it affects all parts of their life. Not only will you not feel like indulging in sex, you’ll have less energy and passion for other areas of your life. You may even feel stuck in life in general, or perhaps bored. Yet once you start getting that sexual energy moving again, your entire life will transform. You’ll feel more alive and vibrant in all you do, and so much more passionate. Life will start to flow with a purposeful buzz!
8. I’ve never had an orgasm before. Will this course help me?
Absolutely. Most women’s vaginal canals are numb, hence why most women only experience clitoral orgasms, if they experience orgasms at all. In this course you will learn how to wake up the vaginal tissue so you can feel more pleasure so you can enjoy G-spot orgasms and deep full body cervical orgasms (this is where the more spiritual experiences are found).
Every woman can experience this kind of deep orgasmic bliss; it’s simply about educating yourself on your special bits and applying certain techniques and clearings to tap into those yummy orgasms. This will happen through learning about the sexual reflexology points in our genitals and using the Jade Egg practice.
9. My orgasms already rock! What will this course give me?
There is no limit to the amount of pleasure we can experience. Imagine the orgasms you’re having now being 100 times more ecstatic and profound! That’s what this course will open you to: How to awaken every cell of your body to orgasm. What I’m saying is you will be able to have a toe-gasm or a knee-gasm, make love to your partner while they’ll sitting across the room from you, if you so desire!
Not only that, when our sexual energy is flowing more freely, we experience greater health. The harmonious flow of our sexual energy and our health are intimately connected. As you clear stagnant energy from the body, we raise our energetic vibration, and as we do this, we increase our ability to attract more abundance into our life, and tap more easily into our creativity. This is why I consider the Sexual Self course as the Level 2 to Remarkable Relationships, as it takes all of those skills you already learnt to the next level.
10. What is the course content based on?
Personal insight, extensive study and formal training with teachers worldwide and experimentation. After experiencing an orgasm on the massage table, I started to explore sex, studying a range of modalities: Tantra, Taoism, Shamanism, Body De-Armouring, Lomi Lomi Massage, Huna, the Jade Egg practice, Sexology, Zen Sex, The Billings Ovulation Method, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Time-Line Therapy, Hypnosis, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Energy Healing, Chakras, Kundalini Yoga, Yin Yoga, Restorative Yoga… and the list goes on.
I bring together 15 years of dedicated study and application into one comprehensive course. While influenced by my learnings, the content is my own creation, delivered in a way that opens you up to all sorts of possibilities while allowing you to explore your own sexual desires. It takes a very heart-centered approach to ensure you are engaging in sex in a holistic and nourishing way for you.
11. Will this course help my relationship?
All of my teachings are focused on developing relationship with self – including this one – because only when you develop your relationship with YOU can you have a deep and meaningful heart-connected relationship with another person. So in answer to this question, ‘Yes’.
As you learn how to connect more deeply with yourself, so too will your connection with your partner deepen as a result. Because you learn how to tune into your partner, you will also gain the skills to really ‘know’ what’s going on for your partner both sexually and in everyday life. And that can only enhance your relationship.
12. Am I too old for this course?
If you’re alive, then you’re not too old. You do not want to be retiring from love-making as you age, especially given that learning how to circulate your sexual energy will actually improve your health and longevity – it will quite literally keep your mind and body more youthful.
A rock hard penis and perky breasts are not required to experience great pleasure once you’re older (or as I prefer to say ‘wiser’). Sex really is like a fine wine, it only gets better with age. So let me share with you how to get that sexual energy flowing through your body so you can reap the benefits of having a vibrantly alive sexual life.
If you feel you’re ready to take the next step in your self-lovin’ journey, then I look forward to sharing the love with you. Simply enrol here…