Are you settling for less?
I’m sure at some stage in your life you’ve settled; for the good-enough partner, the it’s-not-so-bad job, that mediocre orgasm (or lack there-of) or the time-poor lifestyle that leaves you with no time to spoil YOU.
People sacrifice goals, needs, wants and happiness – even our health – daily.
And sadly, society actually supports this.
You may feel dead inside, but you convince yourself that what you have is enough.
Your heart is screaming for a life different to what you’re living, yet you ignore the signs and that knowing feeling that says you can be happy right to your core.
The negative mind-chatter takes over telling you, you don’t deserve such things or you’re not good enough to pursue your dreams.
And so you settle for less.
The thing is, you don’t have to settle, you’re actually choosing to settle.
This happens a lot in relationships.
People accept, almost as law, that relationships require us to make sacrifices and to settle for less than we want.
Less than we deserve.
Women especially rush in to snare a guy that’s not the perfect choice for them, as they feel like time’s running out.
‘All the good ones will be taken if I leave it much longer’ they justify, and so they settle instead of finding the shoe that fits the foot in all the right places.
Once a person’s in the relationship they might tell themselves: ‘It’s ok to be treated this way, at least I have someone.’
It is this unfavourable logic that keeps people in abusive (both physically and mentally) marriages.
That fear of never finding someone else keeping them stuck in a less than satisfactory partnership.
If you believe no one else will ever love you, it’s time to have a re-think.
There are plenty of good catches just like you, wanting to create a happy and fulfilling life with someone special like you – but you need to be brave enough to set the current one free, knowing that by honouring yourself you’re creating space to reel in the one that will be available for a full-blown heart-felt connection that nourishes you on all levels.
The answer really is, to start honoring yourself!
Believe that you can have it all, and that life doesn’t have to be a place where you accept the first offer that comes your way.
You can stay true to yourself and actually create a life and relationships that nourish you, instead of leave you feeling like there’s something missing.
Without that unshakable commitment to never settle for less, you will continue to sacrifice.
Do a Vision Board and fill it with pictures and words of all the things you’d like in your life.
Make it as inspiring as possible.
And once done, be sure to spend five minutes everyday feeling into what it would be like to have everything on that board.
The more we take on the ‘feeling’ of already having these things in our life, the more we start to attract the opportunities to turn them into reality.
People come to accept that their current life is just how things are.
These beliefs and ideals were adopted from a very young age.
If you’ve spent any time working with me or reading my blogs, by now you should start to understand that anything in life is possible once we start to un-learn those things that have been limiting us all this time.
If you’re like to learn how to clear our the childhood conditioning, you can start your journey into self-love by signing up for the FREE Self-Love Starter’s Kit at the top of the page!